The Journey To Loving Myself

There are many ways in which to resolve conflicts.  I recently found a method that has begun to change my life.  It can be hard not taking things personally. Recently I began a year long evaluation of some of my longest relationships, relationships that I felt completed me and made me who I was, they were starting to leave me feeling misunderstood with a strong desire to explain myself.  Why was I seeking so desperately to be understood? What I found was that I was looking for myself and blaming others for not having the answer, an answer only I could find.

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The year was difficult leading me down a long dark path of introspection. This is where I found the answer, that finding peace in my heart and giving myself the validation that I needed is not something you can get from others. Our creative subconscious is known to bring us into situations that help us work through issues that we deeply want to resolve.  Realizing my part in these relationships was an unplanned lesson which taught me, rather than making up stories about why I was not good enough I can appreciate the relationships for what they were meant to bring to my life and me to theirs.

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These situations brought great realization into how much time I spent chasing unavailable people and ignoring the people that loved me for me.  Validation and acceptance needs to come from within. A lesson I long needed to learn.  When you love yourself you surround yourself with people who love you and all your imperfections. When I stopped paying attention to the things I was missing out on I started to see all of the realtionships I had been blessed with.

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Sometimes we need things to get really dark before we can see the light again. We need to trust that the light will come back at the perfect moment helping us grow into our best selves.